21st century marks a time when men and women are treated as equals in almost all spheres of life. It is a common occurrence to see as many women in the workplace as men. According to a study conducted byAmericanProgress.org “Women now make up half of all workers in the United States, with nearly 4 in 10 homes having a mom that is also a working mother.”
Women professionals also have to do a very important juggling act between her family and career. Both of these spheres require a complete undivided attention.Sometimes such undivided attention is not achieved because of miscellaneous factors. This leads to birth of a guilty conscience in the minds of individuals. They feel that they need to strive more for achieving that elusive perfect balance between family life and work.
On the contrary, what needs to be present is a perfect plan that would enable them to achieve that balance.
One should not think negatively regarding the attention time span that she gives to her child and her sense of responsibility towards her child. She should think that the money earned can provide much more opportunities for her children. She can in the process create a sufficient financial cover to take care of their higher education needs.They need to keep in mind both sides of the coin.
Start the day with ease
Plan ahead and not on that instant. This is the key word for having a soothing , uneventful , smooth morning and not a hectic, stressed one. If the goal is to plan for a nice surprise in the children’s lunch bag , then the best way to do that is to prepare everything the night before and pack the lunch bags. The clothes that the children will wear to school can be selected and kept aside the night before. The same approach can be taken for work clothes as well.The breakfast menu can also be selected the night before. It will be a great help if important things like key, kids’ school bags or diaper bags, purse etc. are kept together. According to the founder of Urban Clarity, a Brooklyn based organization Amanda Wiss , “You should also decide what to make for breakfast, and repack the diaper bag, backpacks, purses, or work bags and place them by the door, right next to your keys, so you can grab them and lock up on your way out,” . A to do list can do wonders & the responsibilities identified in the to do list can be shared between the partners.
Having a good nanny could be a relief for the working professionals. To find a good nanny one can ask friends & family members for giving references. Contacting an authentic as well as reliable nanny providing center too helps. In absence of a good nanny , the local day care center can work as a suitable alternative.
Clear communication with your employer
If certain timmings / work conditions need to be tailored at the work place to suite family needs , then that needs to be discussed clearly with the HR representatives of the company. Every individuals needs are unique and the company should be aware about those needs.
Family bonding is a must for scenarios where both the partners are away working during weekdays.Bonding activities can be planned for weekdays and weekends as well. For weekdays, however one needs to manage the time first.Some interesting activities like family game nights , family breakfasts are of great help. According to Wiss “Create activities that regularly fit into your schedule so that everyone knows what to expect and what to look forward to,” .Checking emails , chatting on the phone are activities that should be avoided during family outings. Instead of that it is better to concentrate on the children’s hobbies, their interests etc.
Creating Family Calendar
A great innovative approach can be the creation of a family calendar which can serve as an event bible for every working mom. It will include birthday of every member of the family, time for extracurricular activities, family as well as school events, due dates of different bills etc. It can be of great help you in managing the daily routine quite well. Fran Durekas, A founder as well as chief development officer for Children’s Creative Learning Center said, “Set aside 15 minutes each Sunday to review and prepare for the upcoming week’s schedule. This helps to eliminate surprises during the week. Families should share the calendar with their babysitter or nanny so that everyone is up-to-date on the activities.”
When one is not present physically with the children, then presence in the form of recorded voice either in the form of a loving message or a favorite song that the children love to hear from their mother can be a good option. In case one arrives late for an important event of the child, surprising them with a nice gift the next morning can be a good option. Their memorable moments can be captured on video and can be fondly watched later.
Finding some me time
In such scenarios a me-time always helps in unwinding and letting go of all unwanted stress. However, it is often difficult to find some me time in the hectic day to day schedules. If the schedule is planned carefully, then some me-time no matter how small can still be arranged.
Time for partner
In this exercise of managing equal attention between work and family, the only person who tends to get neglected is the other partner. It is imperative to remember the fact that he has been your pillar of support from the very beginning. So no matter how hectic the schedule may be , keeping the relationship alive and exciting is very important.Date nights at least once in a month can be of great help.